Drop The “Shoulds”

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When healthy inclinations become “shoulds” “musts” then there is a big problem. Consider a situation that bothers you, and find a deeper “should” that’s related to an experience you “must” have or avoid. Face the should, ask this question: “Is it really true?”

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This Wednesday Night Meditation included a 49-minute meditation and discussion, and a 26-minute talk and Q&A about Effortless Effort: The Wise Effort of No-Self.

Guest teacher Stephen Doetsu Snyder began practicing meditation in 1976. He has studied Buddhism extensively, including Zen, Tibetan, Theravada, and Western non-dual traditions. He was authorized to teach in the Theravada tradition in 2007 and the Zen schools of Soto and Rinzai in 2022. He is a senior student of Roshi Mark Sando Mininberg. Stephen encourages students to turn toward their true nature and embody their true identity. He is the author of four books, including Buddha’s Heart and Demystifying Awakening.

I hope you find it helpful, and you are welcome to join my free Wednesday Meditations – which are open to everyone!

Meditation and Discussion: Effortless Effort – The Wise Effort of No-Self

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Talk and Q&A: Effortless Effort – The Wise Effort of No-Self

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